Most children love to go to school, because it is there that they get new knowledge, communicate with their peers, can try themselves in different fields of activity. But sometimes it happens that the child categorically refuses to go to school.
Why it happens? Psychologists claim that there are specific reasons for such refusals. Let's see what are the main reasons for a child’s refusal to go to school, how to persuade a child to go to school?
The 6 main reasons why a child refuses to go to school:
- poor academic performance;
- offense to the teacher or a conflict with the teacher;
- if your child has become an “outcast” in the classroom;
- conflicts with classmates or high school students;
- fear of stronger and more successful classmates or high school students;
- strong study load.
Usually, it is these factors that cause the child to refuse to go to school. Psychologists claimthat each parent is able to help his child cope with problems at school and again fall in love with their studies, for this it is necessary to find out the reason for the refusal and to talk in confidence with the child.
How to help your child: advice to parents
1. If the child does not have time to study
In this situation, parents should explain to the child that they love him no matter what grade he gets in school, but simply because he is. This will help the child raise his self-esteem and cope with the neurosis that haunts him after the next two.
To help your child learn, consult with the teacher about exactly what your child’s problem is: he doesn’t understand the material, he is inattentive, he doesn’t do homework or anything else, try to work with the child additionally, if you can’t do it yourself, hire tutor, make sure that the child performs all the tasks received at school.
When the child begins to bring good marks, be sure to praise him for it, encourage.
2. Conflict with the teacher
Discuss with the child those situations in the relationship with the teacher that caused the offense, insist on the teacher’s authority, explain to the child that you need to take criticism philosophically, understanding that, how many people, so many opinions.
Alone with the teacher, discuss their conflict with the child, express your opinion on this matter. Ask the teacher to be tolerant in dealing with the child. Explain to the teacher that the child only gets offended at his remarks and does not understand what is wanted of him. Ask the teacher to pay attention to the behavior and mood of the child, to be more loyal and fair to the baby.
3. The child became an outcast in the classroom.
Talk to your child about it. Ask why he separated from the class, if the child had any conflicts with his classmates. Try to explain to the child that all people are very different, someone may like it, someone may not like it. He can also be cute to someone, but not to someone, this is absolutely normal.
Advise him to communicate with those classmates with whom he is easy, interesting and comfortable. In case of special closurechild can ask for help from the school psychologist and class teacher.
4. Conflicts with classmates or high school students
If there really have been or are conflicts, be sure to talk to your teacher about this, let him know, remember that he may not notice anything, since he is loaded with various kinds of work.
Teach your child to defend and not respond to provocations.Persuade him to be calm, not to be offended and not to be nervous over trifles.
If teasers become reasons for quarreling with classmates, convince the child that this is not insulting, this is normal, teasers say that your child is of interest to other schoolchildren and nothing more, they do not want to offend him personally. You can tell your child about these situations from your school life.
5. Fear of stronger and more successful classmates or high school students.
It happens that high school students or physically strong classmates are trying to assert themselves at the expense of the offense of the weaker, if your child is so weak, then they can intimidate him, beat him, spoil his clothes, property, take something away.
In this case, the method of struggle is the same - an appeal to the class teacher or the school principal with a request to sort out the situation.
Also useful is a conversation with a child, during which you explain to him that his offenders are trying to prove their strength with such actions, advise you not to communicate with offenders at all, stay away from them, make new friends.
Also, advise the child not to be afraid of telling the wrongdoers that he can fight back, behave more confidently, in caseattacks from offenders to invite them to discuss everything in words, because fists are not a method, then they will realize that he is not weak, and therefore it’s not worth contacting him.
6. Large study load
If a child refuses to go to school because he is very tired, think maybe the program in this class or school is too complicated for your child, or does he attend too many extra classes? Analyze everything, if necessary, transfer the child to another class or school. Or give up some extra classes so that the student can rest more.