Potty training and other hygiene issues

Potty training and other hygiene issues

Potty schooling is another important milestone in the process of growing up. Vodin is a wonderful day, often the result of conversations with other parents, the mother decides that it is time to transfer the child to an “adult” way of urinating and defecating. And to make this decision and start on it can insist parents as 8-9 months, and 3-4-year-old baby. And, despite such a serious age step, the behavior and attitude of parents towards a child who “doesn’t understand” or “doesn’t want” to do what is expected of him will be similar. When attempts to persuade, to show on toys, perhaps, to inspire by their own example do not give a result, parents can begin to get annoyed, scold the child, even punish him.

At this pressure, most often the child will react by refusing to obey the parents. At the same time, the child may be embroiled in the old habitual urination method, for example, in a diaper, or “do his own thing” in the pants next to the pot, but not in the pot.

For example:

Both laughter and sin — my child (1 year 5 months) took the rules to write and crap on the carpet. Today, in general, he took things out of the dresser, put forward a regiment and wrote there. What to do with it — I will not apply! We talked with him kindly, and scolded, and even spanked - he just laughs back. He refuses to go to the pot: he sits on it for a long time in his pants, groans, but then gets up and pees in his pants. We bought him a child seat on the toilet - he once peeed while sitting on it, and by now also climbs just to “play ka-ka” and grovel. True, he does not like wet pants — he removes himself and takes them to the laundry. And if you poke around in your pants - there’s one more problem: you ruin the pen in her poop and show me or grandmother! So what to do with it?Olga

In the worst case, the child refuses to write or crap at all. He begins constipation, which helps only enema, and even then not always. Teaching a child to the pot becomes a serious problem. Moreover, the more efforts parents make to achieve its solution, the worse and worse the result becomes.

My son is 2 years and 6 months old. Wean from diapers beginning in two years.In a small way, he walks without problems in the toilet, on the grass, everywhere. But in a big way - the problem. He goes to the d / s, and there they say that he poops on the pot, but does not seem to, because the child suffers and at home he agrees to go only to the diaper and stand up. We are trying to accustom him to a pot or toilet, but this only causes a negative reaction and constipation! How to behave in this situation?

As a rule, resistance to children is a surprise for parents. They are completely misunderstood by him. It seems to them that the child does not specifically obey, on purpose. They believe that he can do it, that they want from him, but “out of harm” acts in its own way. That is why most often parents and resort to punishment, while feeling their helplessness, because they can not cope with the baby.

Why does the child resist?

  • Firstly, he may simply not be old enough to consciously control his urinary organs and bowel movements. After all, the use of the pot requires a rather high degree of self-control from the child.
  • Secondly, in addition to physiological, there are psychological reasons. Simply put, the child should be able to, and want to use the pot.After all, what used to happen by itself and without any efforts on its part, should be completely restructured. The kid must learn to manage a complex internal process.

If we decompose this process into components, then it turns out that the child must learn:

  1. recognize the signal to urinate, that is, to understand exactly what he wants;
  2. restrain the primary impulse;
  3. consciously and voluntarily look for “suitable” conditions for this;
  4. deliberately "get down to business", being in the right conditions.

Determining at what exact age the child will be able to do this is quite difficult. There may be significant individual differences. It is clear that at this moment the child should already be well enough able to walk and control his body. In order to somehow define the age range, we will assume that this happens closer to two years.

There are examples when moms manage to teach children to potty and at a younger age *. But most often this is due to the efforts of the mother, when she recognizes the child’s desire to pee or poop and in time substitutes the pot for him. Mom’s dexterity in such cases is, of course, commendable, butThis does not mean that the child has mastered the pot and is able to use it independently.. Mom still has to “transfer responsibility to him” for the discharge of her natural needs and, perhaps, also face some difficulties.

Thus, we see that the child faces a rather difficult task, requiring its high concentration of attention and strength. At the same time, before you learn to use the pot, the child will most likely have to go through the experience of failure. For example, he may or may not recognize the call to urinate, or not have time to reach the pot in time, even if he tries hard to do everything “as it should.” His disappointment in himself and his abilities in this case threatens to abandon the acquisition of a new skill, it is psychologically easier for him than to have strong negative emotions about it.

And now we will present that to all these experiences criticism of parents, and even punishment is added. And it is not known that he “beats” him more painfully. Sometimes it is much easier for a child to cope with slaps on the bottom than to see how mum and dad are upset about his failure.And then, at best, he will start writing not there or not when it is required. At worst, he will decide that something is wrong with him when he is pissing or popping and that he will be scolded and ashamed all the same. To avoid this, he will not do it at all, in any case, in front of his parents. He will either do it on the sly and then “receive” again from his parents (and therefore, he will be convinced that his fears were not in vain), or he will tolerate it to the last. And this is constipation, laxatives, sometimes mom's attempts to help the child by pressing on the tummy, etc. All this fussing around the pot even more frightens and unnerves the child.

Thus, most often (if the child is 2 years old or more) the problem with potty training does not arise at the level of physiology, but at the level of psychology. The child is quite able to recognize and restrain the primary impulse, but then further fails. Negative emotions "kill" the very desire to master this difficult process.

Parents should understand that the main thing—Do not force the child to use the pot, the sooner the better, but to stimulate his interest in the result, to achieve his voluntary cooperation in this process.

For this you need:

  • forget about criticism, act only praise, failures not to notice;
  • create a child's motivation, encourage him with praise and even “prizes”, not only for the result, but also for any attempt to achieve it;
  • You can break the process into several stages: first, teach the child to warn about his intentions (even if at the same time he writes where he is comfortable); the second is to teach how to do it in one special place; and only the third - to use for this pot or toilet.

It is important that the beginning of schooling was the most comfortable for the child. Do not necessarily use an exclusive pot. Some of the children would immediately give preference to the toilet (for example, with a soft comfortable seat), someone would like a wash basin or even a rug in the bathroom (from which it is easy to remove), or at least diapers (if you wear it on your child’s request just before urination or defecation).

Often parents consider such an intermediate step in the process of teaching a child to the pot not to be their achievement, anenuzhny “concession” to the child. This is an erroneous position. It is easier for a child to learn to control himself gradually.Each small success will stimulate him to further learning, pushing him to master the more complex "steps of skill." Thus, the nervous system of the child and his parents will be protected from serious shocks, and the potty training process will proceed as quickly as possible.

  • To teach a child to the potty / toilet stands in the afternoon, when he is conscious and strong. And not to teach, if the child is sick or excited, is experiencing some kind of stress.
  • It is good if a child plays with a pot, plants toys there, although he does not use it himself. This suggests that he is in the process of mastering the pot (and not at all that he "mocks his parents").
  • If a child uses a potty / toilet for just one need — either pissing there or popping — this is not a cause for concern. We must continue to encourage his attempts and calmly wait for him to decide on more.
  • Do not be upset if the child, having learned to use the pot during the day, continues to write in bed at night. At night, children find it harder to control their urges. Sometimes the dream is so deep that the baby simply cannot wake up to pee.And this situation should be distinguished from enuresis and encopresis - diseases, which are discussed below.

It happens that a child, having mastered the "right skills", suddenly loses them, "unlearns." This is an unfavorable symptom, which indicates that some changes occur in the psyche of the child, which prevent him from properly controlling the process of urination and defecation. However, this does not indicate the presence of the disease. When should parents start worrying?

There are several definitions.enuresis. The simplest and most understandable is the following:enuresis - involuntary urination during the day and / or at night by a child aged six (!) and older, in the absence of congenital or acquired defects of the nervous system or urinary tract, occurring on a systematic basis.

If you do not take into account purely medical factors (such as diseases of the central nervous and urinary systems, as well as severe infections), then the appearance of enuresis is influenced by the following adverse psychological factors:

Psychotrauma

Injuries often cause quarrels and family conflicts that occur before the eyes of the child.A change in family composition (for example, the birth of a new member or the death of a close relative), a drastic change in the child’s living conditions (adaptation period in kindergarten or school, moving to a new place of residence, prolonged separation from parents, caused, for example, that the child had to go to the hospital).

Punishments for wet bed and other parental errors

The fear of punishment is not only not conducive to getting rid of incontinence, but, as a rule, worsens the situation. Fear of sampo itself becomes a factor contributing to the emergence and development of the disease. Pediatricians and neuropathologists, not to mention children's psychologists, emphasize that involuntary urination into bed is a punishment for a child simply because of what happened. In order to get rid of this disease, it is important to impress the child that his defect is temporary and will soon pass.

Approximating the same factors can play a negative role in the appearance of the child encopresis - involuntary defecation.

In child psychology, there are various techniques.non-pharmacological treatment of enuresis and encopresis,well proven in practice. For example, methods of play therapy and art therapy. By drawing and playing games on the subject of his experiences, the child gets rid of internal stress, intuitively looks for ways to solve his difficulties.

At the same time, the most important component of treatment is the creation of favorable external conditions for the child. Experience shows that after a good rest, if there is no stress, enuresis and encopresis (when there are no medical complications) pass without a trace.

Parents' mistakes

  • A typical mistake that parents usually commit is to strive to adhere to strict temporary rules when teaching a child to take a pot. The reasons: the standards left over from the old Soviet medical school.
  • Poor advisers: “old school” doctors and relatives who raised their children according to their prescriptions; their unwillingness to reconsider their views.
  • Adverse external conditions, pushing mom to make mistakes: the feeling that her child "lags behind" the children of friends.

Wrong actions:planting a child on the pot, regardless of his reluctance, pressure on the child, accusations and punishment for improper use of the pot, for dirty pants.

Effects:constipation, fear of the child before urinating, defecation, experiencing the child's inconsistency, inferiority (especially if the mother sets him as an example of the familiar "good" child who already does what he does not work); the stress experienced can affect the appetite, sleep, give aggressive manifestations or, on the contrary, contribute to the child's isolation.

Correct actions:

  • the principle of voluntariness: the child is given a choice - to use the pot or not;
  • quiet attitude to the problem of using the pot: reward for trying to use the pot (praise, prizes) in the complete absence of criticism for the "wrong" actions;
  • a long potty training period: each child is individual, each has his own “speed” and degree of readiness to control his stool (the child’s physiological and psychological readiness to control the administration processes of his needs is a prerequisite for success).

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    Potty training and other hygiene issues

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    Potty training and other hygiene issues

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    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues

    Potty training and other hygiene issues