Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of "victim"

 

Why did my child become an outcast in the classroom?How do you know if a child has a problem if he never talks about it? What to do next? Today we will try to find answers to these painful questions.

Why he?

In 45% of cases, such children live in families where traumatic stressful situations, domestic violence and “dictate” upbringing have become the norm. The behavior of the victim for them is typical, familiar and stereotypical.

Emotional featuressuch children:

  • anxiety, fearfulness;
  • silence, shyness;
  • restraint, isolation;
  • uncertainty;
  • low self-esteem;
  • physical weakness, soreness.

Another reason to harass -a sign that distinguishes the child from the total mass of peers.

Nationality, religion, skin or hair color, social status, visible defects, different growth or intellectual abilities - these and other features can also be a reason for harassment at school.

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How can he be hurt?

The negative impact on the child can be:

  • physiological(beatings, fights);
  • psychological(insults, offensive nicknames, crude nicknames, slander, threats, ignoring).

Oftenchild hidesthat he has problems in relationships with others, andthe victim does not always suffer only from peer abuse.

Thus, according to the National Foundation for the Protection of Children from Abuse in 2013, about 25% of pupils suffered from violence at school. 27.2% of cases - the pressure came from the teachers, in 72.8% of cases - from other students.

If he says nothing?

How to understand that a child has problems if he doesn’t say anything? Pay attention to the tips of his body and mood.

A child who is abused maythe following behaviors arise:

  • problems with appetite;
  • sleep disturbance;
  • depressed mood;
  • unwillingness to go to school;
  • anxiety, anxiety;
  • aggressiveness;
  • excessive pliability and caution;
  • Frequent cases of colds and diseases of the gastrointestinal tract;
  • decrease in progress.

Of course, some signs may appear in one way or another in absolutely normal situations, butif the child has 4 and more- it is necessary to call him in a frank conversation.

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How to respond to information about violence?

If the child came to you with complaints of physical or psychological harassmentimportant to respond correctly.

Take the problems of the child seriously, do not dismiss "everything will pass" or "understand it yourself."

Try to stay calm. The more parents show their fear and insecurity, the more the child will feel the hopelessness and tragedy of the situation.

Calm and support the child with the words: “It's good that you told me. You did the right thing "; "I believe you"; "It's not your fault".

Find out how great the threat to the life of the child. Ask him to tell everything that happened without embellishment and concealment.

Answer your questions.

Come up with a way out of the situation so that the child feels safe and believes that this tactic will help.

What to do?

How to make the school become for the child a place where hecomfortable to be? Be patient and begin to act.

Find the "zone of success". It is important for the victim of persecution to maintain his self-esteem, so it is worthwhile to find those areas of the child’s life in which he feels confident. The sports section, the art club, the chess club - the main thing is that they treat the child positively, he coped with the tasks and was praised. And if you use your talents for the benefit of class and school, the attitude of classmates will gradually change.

Attract to your side. It never happens that the whole team participates in baiting, which is approximately 35% of the class. Those who do not participate and do not support are always there. And these children may well go over to the side of the child, the main thing being to be able to offer them this, for example, to invite those whom he sympathizes with. Having created a “friendly zone”, the child will feel more confident, knowing that on occasion, someone will be able to help him.

Understand that he is not guilty. Often a child justifies a negative attitude towards himself, but after all, he is far from always guilty of what is happening. Find, understand and discuss the motives of the aggressor's behavior: he asserts himself, defends himself against external aggression by others, or tries to compensate for the pain for the violence he has experienced.

Do not tolerate. The fate of the victim is the wrong choice.It is necessary not to show offenders to their weakness, it is important to rebel against violence, at least verbally. If you can fight back - it causes respect.

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  • Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim

    Harassment at school: how to get out of the role of the victim