9 signs that you have toxic parents

Some toxic situations are obvious: physical or sexual abuse. But most are less noticeable, although they definitely affect us in our adult life. However, the children of toxic parents are sure that everything is in order and that they have excellent mothers and fathers. And the parents themselves rarely do so maliciously. Usually they are simply selfish and do not understand that their children have their conflicting emotional needs and desires.
1. When the child needs a parent as help and support.

Classic toxic type of behavior: when the parent actually asks the child to be his parent, to help and support him. Not when mom or dad is disabled, for example, or is sick and needs actual help. It is rather a child's demand for attention and care: for the child to constantly encourage the parent.

2. When the feelings of the parent is always more important than the feelings of the child.

Usually this is manifested in the one who says louder and tougher about something - he is right. The child suppresses his feelings so that the father or mother calms down, so that they do not get angry.Sounds familiar? This is a toxic behavior.

3. When the parent has a problem, and he asks the child to cover it.

For example, the mother or father is alcoholic and they ask the child not to tell anyone about it, while making him feel shame, alienation, inability to trust the parents, and maybe even lie to other family members.

4. When parents control a child using money or guilt.

They threaten not to give him any more money or impute guilt for something completely harmless. They are just trying to control.

5. When parents do not allow a child to grow up.

Parents may require the same level of control as in childhood from an adult child. They can try to influence his decisions, and if they don’t, they get offended or become aggressive.

6. When parents do not recognize the boundaries of the child.

They enter the room without knocking. Call at any time, even if they know that already an adult child at work or asleep. They say everything they want - even in public, they demand that the child tell them everything.

7. When parents humiliate a child.

These could be some offensive remarks about weight, height, marks in school, anything.This may be said supposedly as a joke, but in fact leaves its mark on the psyche of the child. And if he does not react to such jokes, then he is told that he has no sense of humor, or that he simply does not understand. Do not mind it.

8. When parents are passive-aggressive.

When one silence or a look is worse than open aggression ...

9. When a child is afraid of parents, even as an adult.

Are you afraid of upsetting your parents? Not in a good way, but in a bad one, knowing that they will not understand you for sure, maybe they will even get angry? Have you tried so hard to become independent in order to limit their influence on yourself? Do you get sweaty when you see mom or dad calling? Congratulations: you are an adult victim of toxic parenthood.

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