Men often complain about their crazy ex. Do you have one too? Until one of my ex began to call me that, I never realized that there were reasons.
1. He said that he loved me, and then he left me.
This was the first stage of my madness. I could not understand how he could tell me that he loved me, and then just left. These two things are simply incompatible. We have done so much for our relationship, because I was very angry when he just left me. I was not going to give up, I wanted to fight to the last, because I loved him, and he said that he loved me.
Guys, if you do not want to have a crazy ex, do not confess your love to her until you are ready for the consequences - to be in a long relationship. Even if she is first recognized, do not speak better, if you are not ready. It is not so painful than when you speak, and then she realizes that this is not true. Women take these three words very seriously.
2. He left me, but could not tell why.
Nothing is as upsetting as the fact that you just need to “accept” the fact that he left me, but did not understand why he did it. He simply said that "you deserve the best." I understand: for you guys, this seems like the perfect phrase to ease women's pain, but for us it only adds fuel to the fire.
When a woman invests in you emotionally, this is her decision. She decides what is worthy. So just explain why you leave. Do not leave her alone with your thoughts and conjectures, because then we begin to invent various scenarios and perhaps begin to fight harder for you.
If you decide to leave, be brave enough to explain the reasons.
3. If you didn't know, one of the fastest ways to drive a woman crazy is to ignore her.
It was the harshest stage of insanity for me. I was furious not only because I lost my relationship and did not know the reason for it, but also because he blindly ignored me! He did not answer my calls and messages, thus prompting me to come to his house, which I did. All I wanted was just to calmly talk about what happened between us,but he began to act like a 2-year-old child and was afraid to even meet me.
Guys, if you don't want your ex mad, don't ignore her. Talk to her. If you do not answer her calls and messages, she will not go anywhere, but will only look for other, even more inconvenient connections for you. Have courage and answer her.
4. He told me not to worry about his “girlfriend,” but now he meets with her.
It was as if everything was not so bad enough, so I also learned that he started dating her “girlfriend,” whom he said that I didn’t need to worry. So at that time I was already reconciled with my title as a Mad Ex and started wearing it with pride.
I didn't care about his new girlfriend. I knew the problem was him. He should not have left me for her. He should have loved me, right? But not all women look at it and begin to get not only their ex, but also his new girlfriend.
Guys, if you do not want to have a crazy ex, wait a while before starting a new relationship. This is the least you can do. Just put yourself in your ex's place. She and so hard. Give her time.Again: the better you explain everything to her, the faster she will recover.
5. I began to live on, and now he says that I have never loved him.
This is the last stage of my madness. I finally recovered and decided to apologize for what was hysterical after our separation. I had already experienced everything, I was ready to forgive him. But you know what he said when I wanted to apologize? He said that I was a crazy hysterical woman, and that if I calmly live on, then I never loved him (although he first began to “live calmly on”).
I think it is true that they say that parting is difficult for women at the beginning, and for men at the end.
Guys, if you do not want to have a crazy ex, give her time to suffer, but then let me live on when she is ready. We react so crazy to parting, because we are more emotional. But when emotions pass, we calm down, and we even feel sorry. We deserve to find new happiness, just like you.